Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. It is a day that had quietly slipped by unnoticed in former years, but this year has been heavy on my heart. To the families who have suffered the unimagineable loss of an infant or a pregnancy, please know that I’ve been praying for you today. These little lives may have been brief, but they were incredibly meaningful, forever changing the hearts of everyone they touched.
“The amount of time on earth matters very little: a man can live in greed and pride 90 years and never find God, know Him or accomplish His Plan. A stillborn baby on the other hand, teaches people to love, brings people to the Lord, teaches us the tenuous nature of life and teaches us a faith that those who have not suffered loss can never know. A child not even breathing for an hour, can have an impact greater than a famous preacher. The purpose of a life is not ours to decide nor in our hands: it is brought about by God.” -Author Unknown
At the request of dear woman Michelle who lost her infant daughter to trisomy 18 (6 days after Nora was born) I lit a candle, took a picture and posted it to her Facebook page in memory of her daughter Isabella. It made me think of all of the little angels I’ve come to know, many of them through Nora. I decided to light candles for them too. One of them is my sweet nephew Max, another my Aunt Marilyn who died in infancy, and my cousin’s angel, Conner. Others are the angels of friends, people I’ve met through the common trisomy 18 diagnosis, or people I’ve met through this blog. I pray that God will be with each of you and your families throughout the rest of your journeys on this earth. May He fill the void left in your hearts with peace and may the hope be alive within you that you WILL be reunited with your little ones.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. (Psalm 139:14-16 NIV)
From October 14th page of Jesus Calling by Sarah Young:
Be prepared to suffer for me, in My Name. All suffering has meaning in My kingdom. Pain and problems are opportunities to demonstrate your trust in Me. Bearing our circumstances bravely–even thanking Me for them–is one of the highest forms of praise. This sacrifice of thanksgiving rings golden-toned bells of Joy thoughout heavenly realms. On earth also, your patient suffering sends out ripples of good tidings in ever-widening circles.
When suffering strikes, remember that I am sovereign and that I can bring good out of everything. Do not try to run from pain or hide from problems. Instead, accept adversity in My Name, offering it up to Me for My purposes. Thus, your suffering gains meaning and draws you closer to Me. Joy emerges from the ashes of adversity through your trust and thankfulness.